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How To Know If You Need Online Therapy

November 15, 2019 • Kelly Montgomery

The latest in the field of mental health is online therapy, which is also commonly known as e-counseling or teletherapy. From the name itself, it can be implied that this method of dealing with mental illness uses the latest advancements in technology. The online therapist and patient or client need to meet in a virtual environment. All sessions are made online through the use of instant messages, electronic mails, and online conference or real-time chat exchanges.

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The Risky Nature Of Peer Pressure On Teenagers

November 8, 2019 • Kelly Montgomery

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Being accepted and wanting to belong to a clique is normal behavior that teenagers are yearning for during their school years. Although peer pressure is seen as a negative thing by some adults, it’s not usually the case. Sometimes, there are proven benefits.

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Awakening The Conscience Of Kleptomania

November 1, 2019 • Kelly Montgomery

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The society considers stealing as a morally wrong practice, as this brings a negative connotation on the ethical standards of every individual. Consequently, it may also lead to criminal charges. More often than not, people tend to judge someone of becoming unethical because of stealing. It has been a societal practice to consider theft when something has been taken away. The society has set the parameters of morally accepted behaviors. However, no matter how unethical it is to steal, there is still something more profound than the mere idea of stealing, and this applies in the case of people especially the teens who are dealing with kleptomania.

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E-cigarette iIs Just Another Teenage Vice That Shouldn’t Normalize

October 25, 2019 • Kelly Montgomery

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Anything that has to do with smoke is uncool.

What Are E-Cigarettes?

Electronic cigarettes, or what are commonly known as e-cigarettes, are small cigarette-like, devices that run on batteries. E-cigarettes are somehow designed to resemble an actual cigarette, but they’re fancier and are equipped with a chamber where the liquid used for vaporizing is placed.

According to reports, there is a significant rise in the number of teens who are using e-cigarettes. The Centers for Disease Control (CDC) has previously stated that at least 20% of students, mostly in high school, have used e-cigarettes.

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Fundamental Rules In Handling Bad-Mannered Teens

October 18, 2019 • Kelly Montgomery

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Witnessing and hearing news about teens berating and bullying helpless people without any sign of guilt or remorse is disheartening. This goes to show that this pervasive and atrocious behavior, which creates disrespectful and rude teens, has indulged its way into this generation and is somehow getting worse.

With the increasing number of kids who parade ill behavior, how can you, as parents, save them from becoming another person’s antagonist?

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The Pornography Talk: Uncomfortable But Necessary

October 11, 2019 • Kelly Montgomery

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Confronting your teens about pornography is as hard as talking about where babies come from or how they are conceived. With the massive availability of online adult content coupled with the fact that teenagers, mostly those who are between the ages of 12 until 18, are intensely curious, parents are eventually bound to have the dreadful and uncomfortable “porn talk” with their kids.

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Dating A Domestic Abuse Survivor: What You Should Know – Part 2

October 7, 2019 • Kelly Montgomery

 

The first part of this blog is about Validation and Listening to domestic abuse survivors. This last part will discuss on triggers, boundaries, and response.

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Dating A Domestic Abuse Survivor: What You Should Know – Part 1

September 30, 2019 • Kelly Montgomery

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You may have heard that pretty lass who had been kept inside the house for too many years is now available and on the market. You may have also heard she has been through lots of abuse, of possibly different kinds, and you look to be her Prince Charming; the man to defeat all those fears for her. But how do you deal with such girls who had been through so much, sensibly? Such women have to deal with a swirling mass of destructive aspects such as anxiety, feelings of unworthiness, PTSD, depression, and many more, depending on the severity and the length of the abuse she suffered. The culprit may have been long gone from her life, but the scars, physical and otherwise, may still be evident. How do you deal with all of this, you may ask?

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Helping Children Who Are Abused And Neglected – Part 2

September 23, 2019 • Kelly Montgomery

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What You Should Look For

An emotionally abused child tends to be very afraid or anxious about doing something wrong. They are also usually either very aggressive or very passive. And they are not close to their parent or guardian.

Victims of physical abuse usually have frequent and unexplained injuries or wounds. They are also hyper-aware of their surroundings, and they tend to flinch at the sudden movements of other people. They are usually afraid to go home. And they regularly wear clothing that hides the physical marks.

Neglected children are usually unsupervised and may be found playing in unsafe locations. They often do not bathe and wear soiled clothing. They are typically late or absent from school.

Children who are victims of sexual abuse would exhibit knowledge of sexual acts or seductive behavior that children their age do not usually know. They would avoid at all costs a specific person. They typically are very shy about changing clothes in front of other people. They might have trouble walking or sitting. And if the abuser is a family member, they would run away from home. A pregnant child or a child with STD is usually a victim of sexual abuse.

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Who Are At Risk?

Children living in a home with domestic violence are at a high risk of being abused and neglected. Children whose parents are alcoholics or drug addicts are also in great danger of being abused. Parents with mental health conditions such as bipolar disorder or depression may neglect their children. Some parents do not have proper parenting skills, and this could lead to an abusive situation for their children. And some parents were abused when they were young who think that the abusive behavior they experienced is the only way of being a parent. And parents who are stressed out may be unable to emotionally and physically care for their children.

Are You Abusive?

When the abuser is yourself, it is challenging to recognize the fact that you are abusing and neglecting your children. One sign that you’re abusive is if you find that your anger is spiraling out of control and you’re angrier and angrier at your children. You may also be neglecting your child if you find that you do not want to spend time with your child. Another sign that you are neglecting your child is if you are unable to meet your child’s daily needs. And you should listen when someone expresses their concern to you.

Freeing Yourself From The Cycle Of Abuse

First of all, you should understand what normal childhood behavior is. For example, it is normal for a newborn baby to cry. You could learn new parenting skills from parenting classes, from books, and from other parents. You should also learn to control your emotions. You should try to remain healthy and get enough sleep so that you won’t be irritable. And it is also advisable to seek professional help, especially if breaking the cycle of abuse is difficult.

What You Can Do

When dealing with an abused or neglected child be calm and supportive. Do not show disgust or shock at what they say. And do not interrogate them or ask leading questions. Allow the child to tell their story in their own words. Make sure to remind the child that they did nothing wrong. And if you believe that you or the child is in danger, contact the appropriate authorities.

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Do Not Remain Silent

You mustn’t remain silent if you think a child is being abused or neglected. Some people may feel that what is happening is a private family matter. That thinking is wrong. Some people may worry that the child will be separated from their home. This does not always happen. And you need not worry about the abuser knowing who you are because reporting abuse and neglect are anonymous.

Helping Children Who Are Abused And Neglected – Part 1

September 16, 2019 • Kelly Montgomery

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How can you tell if a child is being abused or is neglected? Know the warning signs and help a child in need.

Child Abuse And Neglect: What Is It?

It is not limited to physical or violent abuse. It can be sexual or emotional. It can also take the form of neglect. Because these forms of violence do not leave any visible marks, people tend to not help in these situations.

It is not true that only evil individuals abuse children. Some parents do not even know they’re abusive. They were probably abused as children themselves by their parents and think that is the proper way a parent should act. Others may be suffering from mental or emotional disorders or are abusive when under the influence of alcohol or illegal drugs.

It is also not true that abusive behavior can only be found among low-income families or neighborhoods. Children of different racial, economic, and cultural backgrounds can be abused and neglected.

Unfortunately, most abusers are the child’s relatives or someone close to the child, although sometimes the abuser is someone the child does not know.

Fortunately, many abused children survive their ordeal and grow up to become excellent, nurturing, and protective parents. Sadly, some abused children fall into a vicious cycle and unknowingly abuse their children.

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What Happens to an Abused And Neglected Child?

Abused kids tend to not trust other people or not know who to trust. As they grow older, they are unable to maintain a relationship or continually enter unhealthy relationships.

Abused children tend to feel worthless. As adults, they do not strive for success, believing they do not deserve such fortune. Victims of sexual abuse usually suffer under the impression that they are damaged.

Victims of abuse tend to bottle up their emotions, and this often results in feelings of anxiety, depression, and anger. They may even try to drown their feelings using alcoholic drinks or illegal drugs.

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What Are the Different Kinds of Child Abuse?

There different types of child abuse. A prevalent type is child neglect. In this type, the child is not given basic needs, such as food and clothing, or is not adequately supervised.

Another type of child abuse is physical abuse. It involves physically harming the child. Some parents who physically abuse their children claim that they are merely disciplining their child. Discipline can be distinguished from physical abuse by the presence in physical mistreatment of unpredictability (the child does not know what actions will lead to a physical attack), anger, and the use of fear.

Emotional abuse involves the use of hurtful words to humiliate and bully the child. It can also include ignoring the child or not showing any affection.

Children can also be sexually abused. It should be noted that sexual abuse can happen even when there is no physical contact. Making a child watch sexual situations or view pornographic materials are forms of sexual abuse.

There will be more concerns and issues to be discussed on next week’s blog about children who were abused or neglected.

Until then, thank you!